It was 5:30 AM when I was checking emails in my office in Draper, Utah.

My main office is on the other side of the building from our home. Some mornings are good times to catch up before the school day starts for our children, so I sneak away.  As I opened an email that day and briefly read it, I exclaimed out loud: “Never!  I will never open an email from them again!” 

I then mumbled out loud to the air around me something to the effect of “why can’t people stop looking for bad? Why can’t they just find joy?!”

I bowed my head as my happy countenance started to fall…… the power of a simple email, and I allowed it in my home.

Then, an eyeball peeked in from the doorway……then the rest of the tall slim figure of our teenage daughter Rose slipped in and she quietly asked, “Mom? Can I give you some advice?” ….she smiled that little quirk of a smile, and started singing “the haters gonna hate, hate, hate, but I’m just gonna shake, shake, shake!  Shake it off, shake it off!!”

I laughed.   She had brightened my morning with a simple chorus from a now popular song by Taylor Swift. 

  How true!  How true it is! The day was made bright again by shaking it off.

Way too often we allow darkness into a room of light, oftentimes unknowingly.  Sometimes it creeps in…like the email sent that starts off with something exciting, or captivating, yet turns to darkness, or contact from someone that you really think you should respond to, because you feel is your duty to explain your point of view…... Honestly, you are right with your beliefs yes?

Why don’t they understand?

Because most often, they are right too

After all, they are writing you to convince you that they are correct, and you are wrong.  By responding with how you are correct and they are wrong only fuels a fire…one that most often burns.

Over fifteen years ago, a good friend of mine shared ten words that changed my life forever.  She said…..

“It’s not your job to convince anyone of anything.”

Wow!  It wasn’t?  I could just walk away?  Let them think what they wanted? Feel free from having to convince anyone of a viewpoint? 

Before you start slipping into the tempting world of finding fault, blame, or having to stand up for all you do, consider a few tipping points to shaking it off and letting others cool down:

Interestingly, the first three tips are the same you use to fight dangerous EMF’s. Check it out:

#1          Time – how much time are you spending on a negative issue? The less time you spend near negativity, the less it affects you.If you are engulfed in negativity, you will be negative. 

#2          Distance – how much distance is there between those who are negative towards you? Are they in your inbox? Facebook posts? Instagram? That is often far too close.  You need distance to protect yourselves and your cells. 

#3          Shielding – you NEED shielding in all cases of negativity.  Happy words, a smile, songs that make you feel glad to be alive, and people that LOVE the “who” in you. 

#4          High frequency foods to lift you up.  This is REAL!  Revisit the frequency chart in my book LIVE on page 157.  The foods that are higher in frequency WILL raise your angstroms…it’s a cell thing.  

#5          Change your surrounding – the music, colors, layout of furniture – change it up! Change where the silverware goes and throw off the whole house! 

#6          Choose different friends.  Perhaps start hanging out with those who have happier outlooks.  If you keep finding yourself making friends with negative people all of your life, WAKE UP! It’s YOU! 

(Now don’t take that personally….although it was a bit straight forward. Truly look at what you can do to raise the frequency you are giving off, so those who are negative simply don’t want to play….)

#7          Choose your feelings carefully.  It is REALLY easy to wake up and think about all the negativity you are facing and for you to feel sad. It’s easy to think of the x spouse, the coworker, the kids at school, your boss and find feelings of negativity.  BUT….. NO ONE MAKES YOU FEEL. 

That is your choice.  Our poor children were raised with me preaching “so-and-so did not make you mad, that was YOUR choice.” It drove them crazy, until they were older and figured it out. They really could change their feelings towards anyone and any situation! 

#8        What emotions are you feeding? Pondering on? Living daily?  If you feed negativity and despair, you will feel it.  If you feed positivity and forgiveness, you will become it. 

There are many other tips to share, but this is a great start to another wonderful day!

ENJOY Shaking it off!



Karen Urbanek